Ok Dr. Phil’s wife, Robin, (yes groan, but listen up) has this new app out (iPhone and Android) that’s for people in abusive relationships. It’s called Aspire News and it’s disguised as a regular news app, but when you go to the “Help” section of the app, it leads you to domestic violence resources and also has a “Go Button” that when you press it, if you’re in a compromising situation, alerts local authorities as well as local shelters and starts recording everything that is going on.
Now, if you’re looking up resources on the app and your abuser is near, simply press the X button and it brings you to a random news page. Same goes for the actual foundation site.
ITS COMPLETELY FREE
SPREAD THIS, DONT JUST “LIKE IT”
By comparison, domestic violence is downright controversial. It touches on complicated issues like power, rape culture, victim-blaming, and gender roles, and stirs up uncomfortable emotions. While few people would claim they support abusers, many known perpetrators of domestic violence — from Roman Polanski to Chris Brown to a number of football players — remain venerated cultural figures. Is it any wonder that, even though domestic violence affects many more women and families, breast cancer is the issue we’ve all come to associate with October? Every year 232,340 women are diagnosed with invasive breast cancer; 1.3 million are assaulted by their husbands or boyfriends. One in eight women will suffer from breast cancer in her lifetime. One in four will experience domestic violence. Good luck finding that statistic on a yogurt lid this month. —
Ann Friedman, NY Magazine (via 500fairytales)
I’m just gonna leave this here…
Domestic Violence Awareness Month wont be recognized because its not “sexy.” You cant make tshirts, bracelets, etc. with some sexist saying like “save the tatas” for domestic violence awareness.
Why can’t he sell sea shells by the sea shore? — Men’s Rights Activists (via angrytransgirlsunited)
People keep comparing the problems with HealthCare.gov to Hurricane Katrina.
This is why they need to stop doing that immediately.
It is seriously fucked up that people even make this comparison, and it shows how deeply fucked up the American pundit class is. Everything is the horserace to them, and lives and deaths — especially those of marginalized people — just get erased.
A study on masculinity and aggression from the University of South Florida found that innocuous – yet feminine – tasks could produce profound anxiety in men. As part of the study, a group of men were asked to perform a stereotypically feminine act – braiding hair in this case - while a control group braided rope. Following the act, the men were given the option to either solve a puzzle or punch a heavy bag. Not surprisingly, the men who performed the task that threatened their masculinity were far more likely to punch the bag; again, violence serving as a way to reestablish their masculine identity. A follow-up had both groups punch the bag after braiding either hair or rope; the men who braided the hair punched the bag much harder. A third experiment, all the participants braided hair, but were split into two groups: those who got to punch the bag afterwards and those who didn’t. The men who were prevented from punching the bag started to show acute signs of anxiety and distress from not being able to reconfirm their masculinity. — Doctor Nerdlove, "When Masculinity Fails Men" (via aldoushuxley)
(Source: sepiacircus, via rabbleprochoice)
here is a brief questionnaire to find out if you have been benefiting from societal privilege. check all that apply:
[ ] Are you paid more than a woman for doing the same job?
[ ] Is your form of birth control readily available over the counter at any grocery store, pharmacy, or public bathroom without a prescription?
[ ] Have there been recent attempts by congress to legislate whether or not you are allowed to procure your preferred method of birth control? do you live in fear of the law overturning?
[ ] Are you more likely to be hired for a job than a woman?
[ ] Have you been taught from an early age to never walk alone at night, wear revealing clothing, go to a party alone, leave a drink unattended?
[ ] Has your gender ever been president?
[ ] Are you often judged by your looks rather than your character?
[ ] If you choose not to have children, are you considered a cold or bitter person?
[ ] If you choose to have children, are you expected to sacrifice your career?
[ ] Have you always seen people of your own gender in positions of power or as role models?
[ ] If you choose to engage in consensual sex with multiple partners, are you looked down upon by society, or are you praised?
[ ] If you are proactive, do you fear being called a shrew or a bitch?
[ ] If you decide to remain single, are you a bachelor, or a spinster?
[ ] Is your gender the assumed default for most situations?
[ ] Is your judgment called into question depending on what time of the month it is?
[ ] Do people that you have never spoken to before see you on the street and tell you to smile?
[ ] Is the most offensive stereotype about your gender portrayed in the media that you’re absent-minded or foolish?
[ ] Is your gender well-represented in the media?
[ ] If you are sexually assaulted, is someone going to ask you what you were wearing, if you were drinking, or tell you that you wanted it?
[ ] Are even traumatic events like cancer sexualized by the opposite gender? If you are unsure, look up breast cancer awareness, and compare it with prostate cancer awareness.
[ ] Do you find yourself having to decide if you should speak up about jokes about your gender or the assault of your gender, for fear you may be labeled an uptight feminazi?
[ ] Are you often whistled at or made to feel objectified while walking down the street, standing in line for groceries, or going to the gym?
[ ] Has your doctor ever not taken you seriously because of your gender?
[ ] Are you often told that you do something well ‘for a guy’?
[ ] Do people assume you’re a bad driver because of your gender?
[ ] Are you generally unaware of your privilege?
i am sick of these dudes, the ones who need me to spell it out for them. the ones who think it’s MY job to educate THEM, it’s MY job to tell them where society’s values lie. it’s not MY job.
and here’s the truth, from the bottom of my feminist heart: dudes like this, they don’t care. you can give them 2 or 200 examples of male privilege, and they will still say, ‘but what about me?’ they will find a way to be more oppressed, to tell you that they have nothing.
i have news for you, privilege denying men: your ‘nothing’ is still exponentially more than our everything.
It’s taken me so long to sit down and write this letter – not for lack of caring, but because there is so much to say and I’m not quite sure how to express it, so I apologize for my candor. I am a white man and I should begin by offering an apology because we’ve failed you. Not just you, but we have failed so many women, and especially so many women of color, by our lack of understanding the ways we perpetuate racism and sexism in our every day lives.
We have also failed to realize the systemic effects our racism and sexism has on laws that negatively impact women who are in situations such as yours. We have failed, time and again, to recognize that eradicating both systemic racism and sexism is our issue as we are the ones who perpetrate violence against women of all backgrounds. This is not to take agency away from all the women and women of color (as well as men of color) fighting racist and sexist injustices, but it’s to say that the only way racism and sexism will end is when white men recognize our roles in upholding these systems.
As a prevention educator at a rape crisis center, I do my best every day to educate men and boys about why they should care about ending men’s violence against women. It is shameful that I have to do this. Outside of voicing my support for your case and for your freedom, I promise to always be mindful of the ways I am contributing to the oppression of women of color and to work actively to combat those attitudes and actions in myself and other (white) men. I will also constantly and consistently look inward to the ways I am perpetuating a culture of violence against women.
Thank you for being so strong.
With respect and admiration,
"I will give you an example of how race affects my life. I live in a place called Alpine, New Jersey. Live in Alpine, New Jersey, right? My house costs millions of dollars. [Whistles and cheers from the audience] Don’t hate the player, hate the game. In my neighborhood, there are four black people. Hundreds of houses, four black people. Who are these black people? Well, there’s me, Mary J. Blige, Jay-Z and Eddie Murphy. Only black people in the whole neighborhood. So let’s break it down, let’s break it down: me, I’m a decent comedian. I’m a’ight. [Applause] Mary J. Blige, one of the greatest R&B singers to ever walk the Earth. Jay-Z, one of the greatest rappers to ever live. Eddie Murphy, one of the funniest actors to ever, ever do it. Do you know what the white man who lives next door to me does for a living? He’s a fucking dentist! He ain’t the best dentist in the world…he ain’t going to the dental hall of fame…he don’t get plaques for getting rid of plaque. He’s just a yank-your-tooth-out dentist. See, the black man gotta fly to get to somethin’ the white man can walk to.”
~ Chris Rock
“The black man gotta fly to get somethin’ the white man can walk to.”
“Abortion is a permanent decision”.
So is…having baby…
(Source: weemouse, via lavenderlabia)
Worst people ever award goes to these guys.